
Infidelity, a common and devastating issue in many relationships, can significantly impact emotional well-being and strain partnerships, often leading to arguments or even breakups. It’s crucial to understand the two primary components of infidelity: physical affairs involving sexual intimacy and emotional affairs characterized by emotional attachment. While men often view physical encounters as separate from emotional infidelity, women often consider any form of sexual involvement as a betrayal of trust. It’s essential to recognize that physical relationships often lead to emotional bonds as well.
Infidelity can trigger a significant life transition, causing stress second only to the death of a spouse. It can even surpass the stress of divorce. When faced with emotionally distressing events or significant losses, individuals typically experience six stages of emotional response:
- Shock: Initial disbelief and bewilderment at the situation.
- Denial: Refusal to accept the reality of the situation, seeking justifications or evidence to disprove it.
- Anger: Intense emotional reaction towards the situation, often directed at the person or circumstances perceived as responsible.
- Bargaining: Attempts to rationalize or negotiate with oneself or others to find a way to avoid or mitigate the negative consequences.
- Depression: Feelings of sadness, despair, and hopelessness due to the perceived permanence or immutability of the situation.
- Acceptance: Gradual recognition and acknowledgment of the reality of the situation, despite its emotional impact.
Navigating these stages can be challenging, and reaching acceptance often takes time and effort.
Factors Contributing to Infidelity:
- Genetics: Research suggests that certain genes influence brain chemistry, potentially increasing the likelihood of seeking gratification through infidelity.
- Childhood Upbringing and Life Experiences: A lack of proper care or abandonment during childhood may lead to an individual seeking multiple relationships to avoid emotional investment due to fear of loss. Such individuals may prefer forming new connections rather than deepening existing ones.
- Family Values: A history of infidelity within the family may normalize such behavior, diminishing its perceived severity.
- Personality Traits: Individuals lacking empathy or seeking excitement and challenges may disregard the emotional consequences of their actions and perceive infidelity as acceptable.
- Chronic Relationship Conflicts: Unresolved conflicts or a lack of open communication can lead to emotional detachment and increased vulnerability to infidelity.
- External Factors: Work environments that promote frequent social gatherings or workplace cultures that condone infidelity can influence behavior. Long-distance work arrangements without the ability to relocate due to responsibilities like childcare or eldercare can also create opportunities for infidelity.
- Primal Instincts: While not always a clear-cut cause, infidelity may stem from innate human drives for procreation and maintaining a genetic lineage.
Emotional Impact of Infidelity:
Infidelity can trigger a range of negative emotions, including guilt, regret, and disappointment. These emotions can overwhelm individuals, potentially leading to depression. Seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide guidance and support in navigating these emotional challenges and potentially restoring happiness in life.
Ariyaporn Tangcheewinsirikul, M.D.
Adult Psychiatrist
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